What she needed the most?

Love needs to be heard to flourish, that’s quite obvious, and it took me days to figure out that it was as much my responsibility to listen as to talk. 

Because love is a conversation, not a monologue.

After our first meeting my head was too full of all the things I wanted to explain, my heart too full of all the emotions I wanted to express. I was concerned that she might disappear without even hearing me out. I was not concerned about the outcome but was more interested in the process....

You can’t speak the language of love until you learn to listen first. I wanted to listen to her thoughts, her opinions mattered the most to me.....but the way things were happening it was me who was expressing and talking the most.....I was so unaware of what was happening across the shore, how my story was being unveiled in her scheme of things just so as to reach her. I wished to be more patient and follow events as they go at their natural pace, I wanted to be more soft, more caring and acceptable of her ways, what would make her comfortable and confident enough to express her views.....I still wish  today that she could express whatever she felt..... But she came in like a gentle breeze and left me deserted like a hurricane.

I wanted to have a genuine healthy conversation with her....Wish I could figure what was troubling her, what was restricting her from sharing.........You can be the best partner if your better half finds absolute freedom with you.......I was open to everything that mattered to her.

Being willing to listen is only half of learning the language of love. The other half is understanding what you hear. And that means being open to a different perspective, even an opposite view.

At first that sounded like I needed to give up what I believed, to forever bow down on the way I saw things......Probably the most important thing for me now is not about being together, it's more about being able Listen and Understand her.....It's not about forcing my Love on her, it is more about being a companion and a true Friend.

Understanding someone goes beyond being aware and appreciative of the other person’s stance and beliefs. It takes consciously embracing that you’re one of two, and both your perspectives have a place. Love is big enough to handle different opinions and philosophies.

Imagine opening your heart to the possibilities, you never know what the other person can give you.....Imagine feeling more confident in who you are....Learnings mostly happen when situations are adverse.

“The greatest gift you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.” ~Brian Tracy